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               “So marumagal*, how was your day?”  These were the words that greeted me each day when I entered my new abode. “It was fine, Appa**,” was the usual response. Hearing this, his smiling face would go back to swaying his head to the beats of the music on the stereo.




               I never told him, that this small gesture of his made me feel at home. Marriage was not an easy transition. Just like any other newly married girl I was trying to adjust to the new surroundings. You usually seek a friendly support to ease you through this situation.




              Appa understood. He became that one friend. Our dinner time used to be filled with anecdotes from his younger years. The stories varied with time; most of them were from ‘Air India’ where he had spent most of his life doing double shifts in the company of good friends. Or better still the adventures of Kanyakumari with his close knit extended family. He was the one who dived in and picked up a coral for his beloved wife in Andaman on their family vacation.




              He was a fun loving guy, which everyone who has met him would agree. He loved inviting people home for Christmas and New Year; the list normally exceeded thirty (which was supposed to be the “Only close friends and family” list.) He thrived in company. Friends and Alcohol were his weaknesses; friends with alcohol meant celebration without a special occasion.




              The relationships that he built during his lifetime were his real earnings. He was that one friend who’ll do all he can if you ask for assistance. And that, is the inheritance he’s passed on. It’s been almost a year, but it still feels like yesterday. The last pleasant memory of his that I have is, on New Year’s Eve; where he’s holding a glass of whiskey smiling at friends bidding him goodbye.




               I don’t know if he was an ideal son, husband, father, uncle, grandfather or father-in-law but one thing that his friends visiting us since last one year has made me realize –


                 That he was ‘That One Friend’ who’ll be missed for life!



                                        &&&



Tamil dialect :
* Marumagal = daughter-in-law.
**Appa=father.

Comments

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murielle
Dec. 3rd, 2016 08:06 am (UTC)
A beautiful tribute!

Well done!
eternal_ot
Dec. 5th, 2016 10:45 am (UTC)
Thanks a ton ! The appreciation means a lot <3
adoptedwriter
Dec. 3rd, 2016 01:41 pm (UTC)

This is so sweet! I miss my FIL too every day.

eternal_ot
Dec. 5th, 2016 10:46 am (UTC)
Aww..*Hugs* Thanks! Glad you liked it :)
bleodswean
Dec. 3rd, 2016 04:49 pm (UTC)
This is a beautiful and warm tribute and remembrance! I love how you personalized him and made him human while still elevating the effect he had on you and others. This line has so much wisdom - The relationships that he built during his lifetime were his real earnings.
eternal_ot
Dec. 5th, 2016 10:49 am (UTC)
You seriously made my day! Thanks a bunch for these lovely encouraging words :) That's the best way I could describe Appa; he really didn't bother about money much. So, Yeah..Glad you liked this.
Happy to see you stop by <3
marlawentmad
Dec. 4th, 2016 10:45 pm (UTC)

Lovely.

eternal_ot
Dec. 5th, 2016 10:49 am (UTC)
Thanks!
dee_aar2
Dec. 5th, 2016 02:27 am (UTC)
Such a touching tribute .... Well done !!!
eternal_ot
Dec. 5th, 2016 10:50 am (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciation :) Makes me feel nice <3
halfshellvenus
Dec. 5th, 2016 09:08 pm (UTC)
This is lovely. A very nice tribute to someone who helped you feel welcome, and who gave and appreciated friendship to those around him. That IS richness, and I'm not surprised so many miss him.
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:10 am (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciation. :) Glad that the qualities got conveyed. Feels good!
Good to see you here <3
dmousey
Dec. 5th, 2016 11:18 pm (UTC)
This is sweet! I liked the format too. Hugs and peace~~~D
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:11 am (UTC)
Thanks! Glad that it worked for you :) *Hugs* <3
my_name_is_jenn
Dec. 6th, 2016 12:32 am (UTC)
This was a beautiful tribute to what sounds like was an amazing man.
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:24 am (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciation :) Makes me feel better that I could pull this off.

Edited at 2016-12-07 07:24 am (UTC)
rayaso
Dec. 6th, 2016 01:42 am (UTC)
This was a great tribute. I'm sure he would have been proud of what you wrote. You make me wish I had met him!
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:27 am (UTC)
That's high praise, Thank you kindly :) I am sure you both would have got along fine, he enjoyed talking to people with a good sense of humour :)
Happy to see you stop by <3 Thanks again!
alphaloria
Dec. 6th, 2016 02:32 am (UTC)
What a lovely read :)
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:39 am (UTC)
Thanks! Glad you liked it :)
karmasoup
Dec. 7th, 2016 02:11 am (UTC)
Very sweet! :)
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:40 am (UTC)
Thank you :)
mamas_minion
Dec. 7th, 2016 04:06 am (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss, but this is a wonderful tribute story.
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 07:46 am (UTC)
I too wish we could spend some more time with him. Thanks for the kind words :)
tonithegreat
Dec. 7th, 2016 05:22 am (UTC)
Love this! You painted a richly detailed and caring picture very briefly. A beautiful take on the topic indeed.
eternal_ot
Dec. 7th, 2016 08:14 am (UTC)
Thank you so much for your kind words<3 Makes me feel good about writing this :)

Edited at 2016-12-07 08:15 am (UTC)
devilz_workshop
Dec. 7th, 2016 06:44 pm (UTC)
This is such a wonderful tribute. Sounds like he was a wonderful person. I am sure he would be very happy and touched by these words if he could read this.
eternal_ot
Dec. 8th, 2016 10:54 am (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciations :) Means a lot to me. Feeling good about writing this now. Ironically we never let the person know what we feel about them when they are around.
Happy to see you here <3 Thanks again!
uselesstinrelic
Dec. 8th, 2016 04:13 am (UTC)
He sounds like a person who was well loved. Not everyone can claim having so much love and friendship in their lives. I hope I'm as lucky to have people remember me as well as you write about him.
eternal_ot
Dec. 8th, 2016 10:59 am (UTC)
*Takes a humble bow* He really was one of a kind, actually we all are :) These words will stay with me , thank a ton for the appreciation <3 *Hugs*
livejournal
Dec. 8th, 2016 04:30 am (UTC)
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eternal_ot
Dec. 8th, 2016 11:09 am (UTC)
Re: LJI fav reads list, week 2
Thanks for letting me know.
livejournal
Dec. 8th, 2016 09:59 am (UTC)
LJ Idol X - 2: Self-pimping and recs (16 hours to deadline)
eternal_ot
Dec. 8th, 2016 11:09 am (UTC)
Re: LJ Idol X - 2: Self-pimping and recs (16 hours to deadline)
Thanks for letting me know.
sinnamongirl
Dec. 8th, 2016 02:50 pm (UTC)
Very sweet, and thank you for the word explanation :)
eternal_ot
Dec. 8th, 2016 03:09 pm (UTC)
Thanks. I thought it would sound phoney if I didn't use the right words. Good to know it wasn't a hindrance while reading :)
Good to see you stop by <3 Thanks again!
m_malcontent
Dec. 8th, 2016 06:34 pm (UTC)
Very touching tribute.
eternal_ot
Dec. 9th, 2016 12:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks :) Good to see you stop by <3
penpusher
Dec. 8th, 2016 08:26 pm (UTC)
A lovely and loving tribute. <3
eternal_ot
Dec. 9th, 2016 12:16 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciation :) I am glad that you stopped by <3
i_17bingo
Dec. 8th, 2016 11:58 pm (UTC)
The warmth of your relationship really shines here. He sounds like a wonderful man.
eternal_ot
Dec. 9th, 2016 12:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks for these words, makes me feel good :) He was warm and cheerful and I am glad it came across.
Good to see you stop by <3 Thanks again!
cheapxdate
Dec. 9th, 2016 12:39 am (UTC)
Oh, this is so very lovely. Such a beautiful tribute to someone who seems like a very beautiful person.
eternal_ot
Dec. 9th, 2016 12:20 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the appreciation :) Makes my day better. Good to see you stop by <3
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